First things first, let’s thank GOD almighty for making us in his image and creating us in different shapes and sizes. He then accessorised by giving us our own individual features. From the slender to curvaceous, the As to the DDs, a gorgeous behind, thigh gap/no thigh gap, smooth skin, scars – the list goes on and on.
But one word describes it all – BEAUTIFUL!!
It took me a while to understand and embrace both my vulnerabilities and strengths as a person. But once I finally recognised them my confidence naturally grew. What cemented my self-assurance was having my teenage daughter Kirin innocently point out features of mine that she thought were problematic. Naturally it set an alarm bell in my head and from then onwards I knew I needed to set an example for both my daughters.
I tend to wear sleeveless tops and one day she asked:
K: ‘Mum, why do you always like to show your arms, your arms are so hairy?’
N: ‘yeah, I know but that’s OK. I’m used to them now and I quite like them’
K: ‘Why do you like them?’
N: ‘Because they are mine’.
When I wore my first bikini to the beach:
K: ‘Mum, why do you like to wear bikinis when you have stretch marks?’
N:‘I’m wearing it because we are going to the beach and I want to wear it. Plus, the sun’s out today so it’s going to let me tan them at the same time’.
This one really caught me by surprise because here I was testing my own confidence by wearing a bikini out in the open and then she asked the one question that made me want to go and hide under my bed.
I then told her how we shouldn’t limit ourselves on what we can and can’t do based on how we look because it was only restricting us from learning, experiencing, growing and living.
If there’s one thing I would LOVE to pass onto my daughters it is SELF-CONFIDENCE.
You need to learn to love yourself first in order to love your loved ones wholeheartedly.
Don’t just preach it; be living proof!
Sooooo in saying that I am now going to share with you this GREAT TIP I used which helped boost my own self-confidence.
PS: It is a bit cheeky however no-one will ever know about your sexy secret that’s going on under there
Whenever you need a pick me up boost of self-confidence:
- Wear your favourite or sexiest underwear. Yes, I mean the underwear that usually only your significant other sees.
And if you need next level BOSS LADY confidence:
- Wear no underwear at all!
I guarantee you if your under garments are ‘hot to trot’ you will be the SEXY, EMPOWERED, FEMININE BEAUTY and you’ll find you will start to build a positive relationship with your body regardless of your size. Furthermore you will discover that you have more favourite features than you initially thought.
After a few weeks of wearing your sexy undergarments or going commando, you’ll be walking tall with confidence and easily preaching ‘THIS IS ME AND I LOVE WHAT I SEE!’