To button or not to button? How to go from simple to stylish in a few seconds

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Understanding the functions and features of clothing can instantly make you look stylish; you are basically dissecting an outfit.

We all know the purposes of clothing but I’m going to hone in on the adornment factor and teach you how simple adjustments will help you turn a functioning piece of clothing into a feature that will create on-the-spot stylish looks for you!

 

THE UNBUTTONED SHIRT

(Who can forget our crowd favourite of Dancing Stylist’s Suit and Tie video where I’m wearing a white shirt unbuttoned)

There are a lot of rules about the unbuttoned shirt. A few examples I’ve heard include:

‘If you’re not sure play it safe and only unbutton 1’

‘To remain classy, don’t go lower than 2 buttons’

‘Anything lower than 3 unbuttoned needs to be worn without a bra’

‘Only wear 3-4 unbuttoned when you have a camisole/singlet underneath’

I generally leave 2-3 buttons undone depending on where I’m going. However, during summer, the long sleeve shirt looks cool buttoned up and teamed with some short shorts or mini skirt. (create a balance) And in winter you can wear this same shirt unbuttoned with a long deep v-neck sweater and some fitted jeans.

Being a creative dresser I love wearing 3 unbuttoned with a super chunky necklace worn underneath my shirt. (so you can only see it through the opened shirt gap) I’d team this up with a long full length tight fitted skirt and some sneakers.

For someone who has a more feminine style I would recommend a soft and flowy pastel coloured long sleeve shirt with 2 buttons undone, some medium -long length pearls with matching bracelet paired with some high waisted dress pants and some open- toed platforms.

 

THE BUTTONED SHIRT

The ‘buttoned up to the neck’ look was traditionally known as corporate wear but nowadays is seen as edgy.  I’m always thinking ‘What are you hiding under there?’ when someone buttons all the way up. There’s something mysterious about intentional covering up that is sexy. Wouldn’t you agree?

Some like to wear it as is and others like to add a bow tie, scarf or necklace for extra style. The latter is a perfect example of how to wear the buttoned up shirt in a corporate environment and still look chic. Just keeping in mind that the colours need to be neutrals with a single colour or a simple print and the same goes for necklace. It needs to be thin – medium in both thickness and height -nothing too bulky or extreme.

There is no right nor wrong answer. You can wear it one way on one day and another way the other dependant on where you’re going and what you’re doing and how you are feeling.  Style is all about experimenting, confidence and attitude and you will discover what works for you as you try different combinations.

Regardless of your Personal Style, you need to understand that the shirt buttoned or un-buttoned can still look fashionable.

And you need to remember that little things matter, oh yes they do.

 

Care to share what’s really going on under there? This is me and I love what I see!!

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First things first, let’s thank GOD almighty for making us in his image and creating us in different shapes and sizes. He then accessorised by giving us our own individual features. From the slender to curvaceous, the As to the DDs, a gorgeous behind, thigh gap/no thigh gap, smooth skin, scars – the list goes on and on.

But one word describes it all – BEAUTIFUL!!

It took me a while to understand and embrace both my vulnerabilities and strengths as a person. But once I finally recognised them my confidence naturally grew. What cemented my self-assurance was having my teenage daughter Kirin innocently point out features of mine that she thought were problematic. Naturally it set an alarm bell in my head and from then onwards I knew I needed to set an example for both my daughters.

 

Scenario One:

I tend to wear sleeveless tops and one day she asked:

K: ‘Mum, why do you always like to show your arms, your arms are so hairy?’

N: ‘yeah, I know but that’s OK. I’m used to them now and I quite like them’

K: ‘Why do you like them?’

N: ‘Because they are mine’.

 

Scenario Two:

When I wore my first bikini to the beach:

K: ‘Mum, why do you like to wear bikinis when you have stretch marks?’

N:‘I’m wearing it because we are going to the beach and I want to wear it. Plus, the sun’s out today so it’s going to let me tan them at the same time’.

This one really caught me by surprise because here I was testing my own confidence by wearing a bikini out in the open and then she asked the one question that made me want to go and hide under my bed.

I then told her how we shouldn’t limit ourselves on what we can and can’t do based on how we look because it was only restricting us from learning, experiencing, growing and living.

 

If there’s one thing I would LOVE to pass onto my daughters it is SELF-CONFIDENCE.

You need to learn to love yourself first in order to love your loved ones wholeheartedly.

Don’t just preach it; be living proof!

 

Sooooo in saying that I am now going to share with you this GREAT TIP I used which helped boost my own self-confidence.

PS: It is a bit cheeky however no-one will ever know about your sexy secret that’s going on under there :)

 

Whenever you need a pick me up boost of self-confidence:

  • Wear your favourite or sexiest underwear. Yes, I mean the underwear that usually only your significant other sees.

And if you need next level BOSS LADY confidence:

  • Wear no underwear at all!

 

I guarantee you if your under garments are ‘hot to trot’ you will be the SEXY, EMPOWERED, FEMININE BEAUTY and you’ll find you will start to build a positive relationship with your body regardless of your size. Furthermore you will discover that you have more favourite features than you initially thought.

After a few weeks of wearing your sexy undergarments or going commando, you’ll be walking tall with confidence and easily preaching ‘THIS IS ME AND I LOVE WHAT I SEE!’