Dear Valentine…… Don’t get friend zoned

Dear Valentine,

We’ve had a very strong relationship for nearly 20 years and you’ve been there for me through thick and thin. When I moved overseas and returned you followed me; now that’s what I call loyal. We know each other inside it, you know every single curve of my body, my favourite feature, my problematic areas and my favourite colours. You constantly remind me to be fair but know that I do favour some of you over others yet there is no judgement. At times I have reminisced about those who have departed because we no longer connected, through tragedies and those I let go because I felt others needed to feel your fabulousness and I still miss you.

If I was to lose you I honestly would not know what to do because the struggle is real getting out of bed each morning but waking up to you gives me hope. I know that you’ll set the mood for my day by injecting your pizzazz into me that makes me want to dance through the streets.

From the sequins, faux fur, leather, layers, embellishments, shoulder pads, floral prints right down to all your buttons and wrinkles; YOU I cannot live without!

You continue to help me every day; during the cold winters and even when the unexpected appears and then there are times when you want to humour yourself and as a result it is a hit and miss for me however nonetheless you always make me feel beautiful and for that I LOVE YOU!

 

You help me represent the REAL ME to the world and I am proclaiming it –

I LOVE YOU WARDROBE!!

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What is your relationship with your wardrobe like?

(A) Are you lovers/BFFs?        If you can fully resonate with the above, then you have found your soulmate!!

(B) Are you friends?                 Your wardrobe gets some of your attention and you connect every now and then.

(C) Are you acquaintances?    Your wardrobe is there for the sake of you not leaving your house naked?

If you picked A – High Five

If you picked B or C read on girlfriend!

 

Your relationship with your wardrobe determines your image and your image tells the story of your personal style.

If you feel that your personal style is not in sync with your true inner self, then you need to re-create yourself by having a good thorough look through your wardrobe and ask yourself:

1) What is my Personal Style?

Am I a creative/elegant/classic/sexy/natural/feminine/dramatic?

Once you have determined what your personal style is then everything in your wardrobe that does not fall under your personal style needs to go.

2) What colours look good on me?

You will need to get your colours done so you know what colours compliment your natural complexion. Once you have determined the 20 colours, only keep these colours in your wardrobe.

3) What is my body type?

You need to find out which clothing types and fit compliment your body shape and help enhance your confidence. Anything that doesn’t work with your body type needs to be taken out.

4) Do these fit me?

All your clothes should fit. It does seem quite obvious but so many people wear clothes that are either too tight or too baggy and it is very unflattering.

There is also the dilemma of holding on to hope that one day you might fit into your fave dress from 2 years ago that cost you a fortune and giving it away would seem like a gesture of defeat however you are not doing yourself any favours. There is the possibility that it will go out of fashion and it is just hanging there taking up room.

5) How long have I had this for?

If you can’t remember when you last wore it or when you bought it, or they have fluff balls on them then they are too old and they need to go!

6) How appropriate is this?

Revealing clothes (such as low cut tops and hot pants) need to be worn at appropriate times as it can look unprofessional or distasteful. Find out how to wear these pieces so that you’re not giving the wrong impression at the wrong time.

7) Why do I have 4 pair of black skirts?

EXACTLY!  You don’t need duplicates. If the style, fit and length are similar keep your favourite pair and get rid of the rest.

8) Am I going to get this fixed soon?

Rips, missing buttons, potential alterations need to be addressed. If not get rid of them. Give them to a fashion tech student who would appreciate them for practise work.

 

 

During this process you are getting rid of all the clothes that don’t work for you, getting rid of the clutter and confusion and making room for the clothes that reflect your true inner self.

You are also giving your clothes some breathing space so they don’t end up smelling musty that can lead to mildew.

The next phase of your re-creational process is to start purchasing new clothes that follow your new found personal style.

As a result, EVERYTHING in your wardrobe becomes interchangeable and you won’t have any mix and matching issues. Just think of all those last minute occasions that pop up that you can now go to looking completely polished!

Of course you will need to be careful with mixing casuals, formals and seasonable pieces.

There is a lot of work that needs to be done initially however on the plus side it only needs to be done once and another positive is that if you don’t have time I can definitely help you.

 

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