Wear that look and OWN it! How to create your own unique style…..

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It’s very important that you don’t let your clothes outshine you. Your outfits you put together should reflect your personal style and what you’re all about. Your outfits generally tell the world what you have planned for the day however it should also express how you’re feeling. If you’re feeling adventurous then wear that flamboyant top that sometimes has you in two minds and shout out “YEAH BABY!!” If you need a confidence booster for that big meeting, then wear that power suit and show them that you mean business.

Basically if you feel it, wear it otherwise don’t follow trends or styles for the sake of being fashionable. Make sure your outfit means something to you first otherwise you’ll find yourself looking and feeling awkward and uncomfortable.

If you have a style crush – that’s great, just don’t completely copy their style. The reason they look good is because they have found a style that reflects their personality and character, suits their body shape and works with their skintone. You can use their style as inspiration but put your own spin on it so it’s still a true representation of who you are. You do want to know who’s looking back at you when you look in the mirror.

Here’s a tip I use often to put my unique spin on my outfits. Try it, you’ll be surprised at what you come up with and I’m sure you’ll have heaps of fun in the process!

1 Pick one maxi floral dress. Here I am wearing the gorgeous Karishma Design dress which also has the cute shorts attached.

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2 Pick one monochrome dress that is shorter in length and opens up as a jacket

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3 Team them up with some heels that suit both outfits

4 And then wear them together to create your own unique look!


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Care to share what’s really going on under there? This is me and I love what I see!!

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First things first, let’s thank GOD almighty for making us in his image and creating us in different shapes and sizes. He then accessorised by giving us our own individual features. From the slender to curvaceous, the As to the DDs, a gorgeous behind, thigh gap/no thigh gap, smooth skin, scars – the list goes on and on.

But one word describes it all – BEAUTIFUL!!

It took me a while to understand and embrace both my vulnerabilities and strengths as a person. But once I finally recognised them my confidence naturally grew. What cemented my self-assurance was having my teenage daughter Kirin innocently point out features of mine that she thought were problematic. Naturally it set an alarm bell in my head and from then onwards I knew I needed to set an example for both my daughters.

 

Scenario One:

I tend to wear sleeveless tops and one day she asked:

K: ‘Mum, why do you always like to show your arms, your arms are so hairy?’

N: ‘yeah, I know but that’s OK. I’m used to them now and I quite like them’

K: ‘Why do you like them?’

N: ‘Because they are mine’.

 

Scenario Two:

When I wore my first bikini to the beach:

K: ‘Mum, why do you like to wear bikinis when you have stretch marks?’

N:‘I’m wearing it because we are going to the beach and I want to wear it. Plus, the sun’s out today so it’s going to let me tan them at the same time’.

This one really caught me by surprise because here I was testing my own confidence by wearing a bikini out in the open and then she asked the one question that made me want to go and hide under my bed.

I then told her how we shouldn’t limit ourselves on what we can and can’t do based on how we look because it was only restricting us from learning, experiencing, growing and living.

 

If there’s one thing I would LOVE to pass onto my daughters it is SELF-CONFIDENCE.

You need to learn to love yourself first in order to love your loved ones wholeheartedly.

Don’t just preach it; be living proof!

 

Sooooo in saying that I am now going to share with you this GREAT TIP I used which helped boost my own self-confidence.

PS: It is a bit cheeky however no-one will ever know about your sexy secret that’s going on under there :)

 

Whenever you need a pick me up boost of self-confidence:

  • Wear your favourite or sexiest underwear. Yes, I mean the underwear that usually only your significant other sees.

And if you need next level BOSS LADY confidence:

  • Wear no underwear at all!

 

I guarantee you if your under garments are ‘hot to trot’ you will be the SEXY, EMPOWERED, FEMININE BEAUTY and you’ll find you will start to build a positive relationship with your body regardless of your size. Furthermore you will discover that you have more favourite features than you initially thought.

After a few weeks of wearing your sexy undergarments or going commando, you’ll be walking tall with confidence and easily preaching ‘THIS IS ME AND I LOVE WHAT I SEE!’

Dear Valentine…… Don’t get friend zoned

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Dear Valentine,

We’ve had a very strong relationship for nearly 20 years and you’ve been there for me through thick and thin. When I moved overseas and returned you followed me; now that’s what I call loyal. We know each other inside it, you know every single curve of my body, my favourite feature, my problematic areas and my favourite colours. You constantly remind me to be fair but know that I do favour some of you over others yet there is no judgement. At times I have reminisced about those who have departed because we no longer connected, through tragedies and those I let go because I felt others needed to feel your fabulousness and I still miss you.

If I was to lose you I honestly would not know what to do because the struggle is real getting out of bed each morning but waking up to you gives me hope. I know that you’ll set the mood for my day by injecting your pizzazz into me that makes me want to dance through the streets.

From the sequins, faux fur, leather, layers, embellishments, shoulder pads, floral prints right down to all your buttons and wrinkles; YOU I cannot live without!

You continue to help me every day; during the cold winters and even when the unexpected appears and then there are times when you want to humour yourself and as a result it is a hit and miss for me however nonetheless you always make me feel beautiful and for that I LOVE YOU!

 

You help me represent the REAL ME to the world and I am proclaiming it –

I LOVE YOU WARDROBE!!

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What is your relationship with your wardrobe like?

(A) Are you lovers/BFFs?        If you can fully resonate with the above, then you have found your soulmate!!

(B) Are you friends?                 Your wardrobe gets some of your attention and you connect every now and then.

(C) Are you acquaintances?    Your wardrobe is there for the sake of you not leaving your house naked?

If you picked A – High Five

If you picked B or C read on girlfriend!

 

Your relationship with your wardrobe determines your image and your image tells the story of your personal style.

If you feel that your personal style is not in sync with your true inner self, then you need to re-create yourself by having a good thorough look through your wardrobe and ask yourself:

1) What is my Personal Style?

Am I a creative/elegant/classic/sexy/natural/feminine/dramatic?

Once you have determined what your personal style is then everything in your wardrobe that does not fall under your personal style needs to go.

2) What colours look good on me?

You will need to get your colours done so you know what colours compliment your natural complexion. Once you have determined the 20 colours, only keep these colours in your wardrobe.

3) What is my body type?

You need to find out which clothing types and fit compliment your body shape and help enhance your confidence. Anything that doesn’t work with your body type needs to be taken out.

4) Do these fit me?

All your clothes should fit. It does seem quite obvious but so many people wear clothes that are either too tight or too baggy and it is very unflattering.

There is also the dilemma of holding on to hope that one day you might fit into your fave dress from 2 years ago that cost you a fortune and giving it away would seem like a gesture of defeat however you are not doing yourself any favours. There is the possibility that it will go out of fashion and it is just hanging there taking up room.

5) How long have I had this for?

If you can’t remember when you last wore it or when you bought it, or they have fluff balls on them then they are too old and they need to go!

6) How appropriate is this?

Revealing clothes (such as low cut tops and hot pants) need to be worn at appropriate times as it can look unprofessional or distasteful. Find out how to wear these pieces so that you’re not giving the wrong impression at the wrong time.

7) Why do I have 4 pair of black skirts?

EXACTLY!  You don’t need duplicates. If the style, fit and length are similar keep your favourite pair and get rid of the rest.

8) Am I going to get this fixed soon?

Rips, missing buttons, potential alterations need to be addressed. If not get rid of them. Give them to a fashion tech student who would appreciate them for practise work.

 

 

During this process you are getting rid of all the clothes that don’t work for you, getting rid of the clutter and confusion and making room for the clothes that reflect your true inner self.

You are also giving your clothes some breathing space so they don’t end up smelling musty that can lead to mildew.

The next phase of your re-creational process is to start purchasing new clothes that follow your new found personal style.

As a result, EVERYTHING in your wardrobe becomes interchangeable and you won’t have any mix and matching issues. Just think of all those last minute occasions that pop up that you can now go to looking completely polished!

Of course you will need to be careful with mixing casuals, formals and seasonable pieces.

There is a lot of work that needs to be done initially however on the plus side it only needs to be done once and another positive is that if you don’t have time I can definitely help you.

 

STRONG really is the new skinny Worth every single ache, pain and blister

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I have a deep love of working out and being active. For a while I had been trying to find a place that challenged me and worked well with my family’s interests and routine.

Crossfit ticked all the boxes and is where I first realised how good it felt to be STRONG!

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O to the MG seeing the athletes; especially the females power-jerk, do 30 minute AMRAPS, do clean and jerks (terms I didn’t know existed until I started at Crossfit) was all so inspiring!

And these are just everyday people, doing what they love, working on their own goals, at different stages of training yet still VERY supportive and encouraging of each other. It’s a very non-judgemental environment and I love it! A culture you definitely feel when you walk in the doors.

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I was nervous when I first started because I knew my upper body; my arms in particular were very weak. Nicknamed ‘chicken arms’ by my family because my arms were long and lanky I knew I was going to struggle when it came to barbell work. To this day I still am a little embarrassed when I am only lifting 20kgs compared to everyone else (even my 13 year old daughter lifts more than I can) however I am constantly reminded that I am only in competition with myself.

6 months have gone past and we are still there and still going STRONG.

The owners of Crossfit Otara (CFO) Danny and Mihi Nemani and their team of coaches are incredible. On paper they have it all but what really stands out for me is that they are so passionate about crossfit and I am totally attracted to passion.

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In addition to being a member of CFO I am also the onsite Personal Stylist. I am here to assist the CFO team with their personal images as they go through dramatic changes in body shape. It’s so cool to see physical changes in the team. Together we’ve witnessed each other’s journey of pain and sweat so to see the results of a new, stronger version of ourselves is worth every single pain, ache and blister.

My passion is to help individuals refine their personal image so that it reflects their true inner self. An image that brings their personality to life, describes the type of person that they are, emphasises their best features and works with their lifestyle.

Team Crossfit Otara – If you have any qs about your Personal Image; ask me whenever. Your current wardrobe probably doesn’t represent the ‘new you’ so let me help you connect with the new you. It could be while we’re running on Lovegrove or when you are bench pressing 100kg+ or when we’re both at the top of the rope climb, just ask away! x

(CFO members receive 15% discount on all Kila’s Style services.)

 

I am wearing AIMN Tropic 2.0 shorts. They feel comfortable, they fit well, are stretchy and very stylish!

Just another day at the CFO box where I’m trying to outdo myself from yesterday.

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Self proclaimed DIY-er Setting my creative juices on fire!

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I am a DIY-er, clutter creating, mistake making, mish-mashin ‘somethin-outta-nuttin’ kinda lady.

The first time I saw the beauty in something so mundane was when I was about 10 years old and it was on a church beach trip. I fell in love with a thick tree branch that had all these smaller branches growing out of it and was stoked when I was able to persuade my mum to let me bring it home.

I envisioned painting it and hanging the few accessories I owned off the smaller branches. Long story short the beast never turned into the beauty so my mum threw it out.

To this day I still collect a lot of knick knacks that I think will look great as an outfit accessory, however it isn’t until I’m rummaging through my drawers that I remember that I have them. Here’s a classic example:

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This necklace is a belt I just added brooches to.

One of the reasons I love to alter pieces of clothing is that it fuels my curiosity to create. My brain is constantly ticking, thinking, analysing, over-analysing so physically creating things allows me to get things outta my head and bring them to life whether they’re a hit or a piece of crap.

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I am definitely one of those people who when I see something I really like or if I come up with an idea, I prefer to try and make it myself. Part of it is because I think if someone else can do it so can I and the other reason is that I get to learn something new, which means I’m challenging and working on myself.

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up-style baby!

I always like to up-style things in my wardrobe especially my shoes by adding or taking off pieces where I can. I can stay in a haberdashery store like Dave’s Emporium for hours just looking at all the bits and bobs that will set the creative juices on fire.

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More up-stylin

 

I say if you can put your mark on something, do it. I ALWAYS try and put the Kila’s Style touch to everything and I sprinkle that goodness everywhere!

 

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